What's stopping you - limiting beliefs

Growing up I was told “Money doesn’t grow on trees”, so I grew up believing it was very difficult to acquire money and therefore aspiring to become a millionaire was too slim of a possibility to even truly consider. I was told “there’s always someone else smarter than you out there”, so I learned that competition would be fierce and that I would never be the best at whatever I set out to do. It is pretty difficult to succeed, believe in yourself and stay motivated when our beliefs are so negative and really just working against us!

Such beliefs stop us from taking the next step; we even end up by sabotaging ourselves in the process of getting what we want. We do this for a few reasons; let me name a couple right now:

1^st Your mind gives you more of what you focus on. If you believe that achieving a certain goal is very difficult then your mind will go out of its way to prove you right. In other words, if your thoughts and feelings are focused on how difficult it is to reach a specific goal your mind will find ways to sabotage your trials – it will help you give up and fail. Why? So it can support your limiting thoughts, and you could then say: “See, I told you there would be someone better out there!”, “See I told you, you wouldn’t make it!”

Imagine if you did not have those negative beliefs or fears roaming inside of you but instead you would have complete and ultimate confidence in your abilities to succeed and believed that your success would bring happiness and positive contributions to yourself, your family and your community. If this was your reality, you would see each obstacle and failure as an opportunity to learn and grow. Through the power of your positive mind and your positive beliefs you would be propelled to your desired success - to your best life possible!

To explain another reason why our limiting beliefs would stop us I would like you to consider the following scenario.

Imagine you have come to believe that most people who become successful have done so to the detriment of their marriage. What if you believed that successful people spent little to no time with their children? If these were the thoughts quietly driving your subconscious what would you do if an opportunity presented itself to suddenly become more successful? Would you jump both feet in? Probably not, because in the end you wouldn’t want to do anything to become that person! You would probably start finding reasons why it wouldn’t work for you and find a way to talk yourself out of that opportunity without even realizing that you were doing it.

Here are two things you need to do to overcome your limiting beliefs.

1^st Rewrite your limiting beliefs into positive, motivational beliefs. For example, if you believe rich people get rich by taking advantage of poorer people then you could rewrite your statement this way: “As a rich person I can be of help to my community and become a positive role-model for my children”.

2^nd Repeat and visualize the new motivational beliefs you have just created. You get more of what you focus on, so focus, visualize, think about what you want in the form of positive statements, positive visualizations and positive beliefs - and you will start to notice opportunities cropping up around you.

To become aware of your fears, your limiting beliefs, your internal dialogue and start making a shift for the best, a life and business coach is powerful resource. As a coach, not only am I able to help you recognize what is stopping you but I help you find the very best steps to achieve your success - fast and effectively.

Don’t go through the pain and confusion of it all by yourself. Let my knowledge and my skills work for you.

Believe in yourself!

Gaby Da Silva

Professional Life and Business Coach

The opposite of being overwhelmed is being happy

We all know what being overwhelmed feels like. For some, being overwhelmed has become so entrenched in their life that they no longer identify it as stress or being overwhelmed, but simply cave in to the old saying: “that’s life!”. Unfortunately not calling it stress doesn’t dissolve its consequences. The consequences of stress come at different levels: cognitively, emotionally, physically and even behaviourally.

Some of the symptoms of being overwhelmed or stress are moodiness, irritability, inability to concentrate, sense of loneliness, general unhappiness, anxious or racing thoughts and possibly physical pain or discomfort such as intestinal problems, nausea, dizziness, loss of sex drive and frequent colds.

You know you are overwhelmed when you are feeling some or all of these symptoms at the same time, when you feel others have a hard time understanding what you are going through or simply, you know that the way you are presently acting, the life you are presently living is not your real self or the life you want to be in – you know it could and should be better.

There is more to overcoming feeling overwhelmed than learning to be calm and organized. Consider this, the opposite of being overwhelmed is not being calm but being happy. This is the most effective way to regain control of your life. There are actions that should be taken right away to overcome stress, such as exercising, adequate sleep and controlled breathing but to truly regain control of your life, deeper, more meaningful work must be done. You need to live an authentic life; the life that you truly want to be living.

Let me explain. Think of the worst possible task you could be asked to complete, now imagine performing that task all week long. How would you feel at the end of that day? Now think of the best possible task that you can imagine, how would you feel at the end of the week if you spent all week performing such a task? It’s common sense, but too many of us have put our desires, our needs and what is of most importance to us on the back burner. We put our family’s needs and work’s needs ahead of us. We don’t have to choose between work, family or ourselves. Our life is meant to be lived harmoniously in every area. We just need to learn how, commit to being honest with ourselves and commit to taking the steps required to unfold our best life.

Gaby Da Silva is a professional Life and Business Coach. She educates, empowers and supports women to achieve success, growth and live their life to the fullest. www.gabydasilvacoaching.com